I was heartbroken a few months ago, when I was told by immigration that I was not eligible to apply for a residency visa in New Zealand. I clearly remember coming out of the Queen Street office, head in a blur and tears in my eyes as I walked blindly to the bus stop. I was overwhelemed with disappointment that I was unable to stay in the country I felt most at home in, and angry that the life I had started to build there, my career, friendships and aspirations, had just been crushed by a man behind a desk, who severely lacked compassion. I settled for the next best option and headed over to Melbourne, Australia, where I am currently living, after arriving two months ago. So I’m currently in the process of trying to get my employers to sponsor me, or to get some kind of residency here. Going home to England has simply not been an option for me. I resent the bad weather, have a lot of bad memories there, and the economy is in such a bad state right now, I know that I would struggle to find work.
Yesterday I found myself watching the Olympics and feeling a little home sick, not for the place I grew up, but for the capital city. Despite never having lived there, I frequently visited my Dad there, and fell in love with the non-stop rush and hectic lifestyle. The cultural diversity is also something I realised Australia is lacking, I know it always takes time to get used to a new country, but I miss culture. New Zealand, although the cultural aspect is very different from London’s huge ethnic variety, I loved for the warm embrace of the countries deep Maori influence. I was overwhelmed by how strong the Maori culture was in day to day Kiwi life. I felt it all around me, and am still fascinated by the language, the tattoos, and how family was so key to the culture.
I’ve just felt that Australia really lacks this. I met a lot of friends back in Auckland who welcomed me into the culture. And since being in Melbourne, I’ve seemed to be magnetised to Kiwi’s, in fact the first guy I dated over here was Maori, and I was thrilled to be able to spend time with him and his friends, I still miss him, but also miss that inclusion in the traditions.
I’ve found in the last couple of days, I’m becoming torn, because as much as I don’t want to go home, I feel strongly that I won’t get as much out of Australia as I did out of New Zealand. I’m even considering trying to go back there. Since travelling alone, I’ve been able to discover who I really am, and that person is a far cry from the girl who left the UK over a year ago. I fear going home, because I know that people I considered friends back there, are actually not. The place I made true friends and feel most at home in, is New Zealand, and I’m scared that going home would suck me back into the life I had before travelling, I would be dragged back into the false personality I had before. I feel free on this side of the world.